We all have lessons we’d like to impart to our younger selves, and it appears that celebrities are no exception.
Jennifer Lopez has been at the top of her industry for over two decades, but there are a few areas she now says she needs to work on in her personal life.
She told the New York Times this week that she now understands the need of ‘holding it sacred’ in partnerships and not revealing too much information to the public.
JLo is rumoured to be dating Ben Affleck again after their highly publicised love affair and engagement in 2002-3, but she wants to keep their relationship discreet.
When the two were in their early thirties and newly renowned, their public and private lives frequently collided, as seen by her 2002 Jenny from The Block video, which featured Affleck licking her derriere while wearing a bright pink wet-look bikini. They were a common sight on the red carpet, and they were happy to talk about their relationship in interviews.
However, after their collaborative picture, Gigli, was critically criticised, media attention grew, which was blamed for their postponed wedding and subsequent split.
Lopez ricocheted between partners, including her third husband, singer Marc Anthony, and Drake, after 18 years apart. Both have children, and while Affleck was married to actress Jennifer Garner from 2005 to 2015, Lopez ricocheted between partners, including her third husband, singer Marc Anthony, and Drake (rumoured but never confirmed).
Now that they’re back together, they’re less open about it, however The New York Times says that they shared a kiss and a muttered “I love you” before Affleck exited the room.
“I would say we learnt our lesson the first time…to hold it holy,” Lopez remarked when asked if the couple had “strategized their relationship” with the press this time.
“You have to do what makes you happy all of the time.” However, you learn from your mistakes and do things better the second time around. Yes, there’s a portion of it when we’re all together. However, there’s a part of it that isn’t as open as it was when we were young and in love so many years ago.”
“When you’re in something, you do what feels right,” she said of her recent relationships, the most recent of which was four years with basketball star Alex Rodriguez, though she was also open about her life on instagram and in interviews. And I don’t chastise myself for things like “I wish I had done it differently” or “Did I do too much?”
“That’s what was comfortable at the time. I did what I had to do. He went on and accomplished what he needed to do. And everything was fine. Being public or not being public had nothing to do with the relationship.”
Marry Me, her most recent film, is a return to the big, glitzy rom-com for the actress. She plays a global singing superstar (no surprise there) who ends up marrying Owen Wilson’s hapless singleton maths teacher.
“Like in the movie, you sometimes have to take a leap off a cliff and believe that you’re not going fall… you might soar,” JLo told an interviewer recently.
“And I believe that too.”
She told the New York Times, “You can’t live life and think that things are just mistakes: ‘I just messed up there, I messed up there’. It’s all lessons, no.
“It’s really what can you extrapolate from it that is going to help you grow and go to the next level of understanding yourself, finding yourself and being able to be at peace with your life, at peace with who you are.”